Think back to the conversations you've had recently. Were these conversations about others? What was the nature of the words spoken? Did you understand the weight your words carried as you spoke of these people? Whether we recognize it now or later, the words we allow out of our mouth have the power to build someone up or tear them down. How productive or detrimental that may be.
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits. Proverbs 18:21
Before we begin to control our tongue, we have to look at the state of our heart. "For out of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaks" (Luke 6:45). How is your heart? Are you satisfied with the definition God has given you at the Cross? Or have you been looking to create a definition for yourself? Possibly speaking poorly of others so that you may be viewed as better by the opinions of those you crave for? Whose opinion is your heart looking to win? Man or God?
"With it we bless our Lord and Father, and with it we curse people who are made in the likeness of God. From the same mouth come blessing and cursing. My brothers, these things ought not to be so. " James 3:9-10
The truth is, we could never work hard enough to be loved by God based on our actions. He had to send His perfect Son to give us right standing with Him. He loves us because He chooses to, not because of anything we have done. Coming to terms with the fact that He poured out His grace upon us when we don't deserve it, should stir within us a desire to honor Him with our words- not strive to attain a definition in the eyes of man by speaking poorly of others. The next time you have a conversation with someone; remind yourself of the definition Christ secured for you at the cross and in checking your motives, choose to honor Him with your words.